All the Single Ladies

I have a close friend from college who LOVES being single.  She absolutely adores it.  She has told me on several occasions that she has no intention of getting married.  To quote her: “Life is too short and I want to enjoy it.”

She inspires me

            I feel very wishy-washy about being single.  Sometimes I enjoy it.  Sometimes I even LOVE being single.   There are moments in life where I say “GOD, I can be single forever!  Who needs a husband?  I have Jesus”.   Then I find my mind contradicting itself with statements like: “I can’t do this another day.  If singleness is a gift, I want to return it..”  (If you have been reading my blog for the past 3 months you will realize I was struggling with the latter). 

            I wish I could be like my friend and ALWAYS be content being single.   I am double minded and (and thus unstable) in my single state.   The Apostle Paul made it quite clear that he preferred the single life.   I think he and my friend from college would be amazing friends.   If Paul was still around he and my friend would probably go hiking and secretly make fun of the married folks. 

Anyway,  I went to the book of 1 Corinthians to read about the joys of singleness. (To learn Paul’s secret).

“Now to the unmarried and the widows I say:  It is good for them to stay unmarried as I am.” ~1 Corinthians 7:8

“Nevertheless, each one should retain the place in life that the LORD assigned to him and to which GOD has called him: ~ 1 Corinthians 7:17

“An Unmarried woman or virgin is concerned about the LORD’s affairs: Her aim is to be devoted to the LORD in both her body and spirit.” ~1 Corinthians 7:34

“A woman is bound to her husband as long as he lives.  But if her husband dies, she is free to marry anyone she wishes, but he must belong to the LORD.  In my judgment, she is happier if she stays as she is~ and I think that I too have the spirit of GOD”  ~1 Corinthians 7:40

            I read those passages over and over. I have read them several times.  I have read them in the past but always thought they didn’t apply to me.  But this time when I read them, I had a change of heart.   I wrote them down in my journal.  I meditated on them.  I tried to memorize them.   How did Paul do it?   How could he find so much joy and satisfaction from being single?  He not only enjoyed being single but he felt it was better to remain single.   He understood that an unmarried person could be completely committed to Christ and Kingdom business.    Why is singlehood such a struggle for me?

It is my goal to find fulfillment in being single~  I don’t want to be wishy-washy anymore.  I want to live a full life of abundant joy being single.  Father GOD.. How can I do this?

~Sunny :D